Does Speed Dating Really Work? An Honest Look at Whether It’s Right for You
Speed dating. A dated way of meeting someone or a method that truly works?
It’s a question that comes up very often in the singles world and one that I really enjoy talking about. Because honestly, I believe there is ABSOLUTELY method in the not-so-madness.
You only have to jump on google and type in ‘Speed Dating Near Me’ to find hoards of companies claiming their speed dating events are better than the others. Whilst there are companies that are delivering more (we will get on to Love at First Sign events shortly), the speed dating concept is generally the same.
Speed dating is fundamentally about putting people in a space where they can connect face to face and have three to four minutes to have short conversations to see if they match the ‘vibe’ of the other person. The sheer beauty of it is the fact that if you don’t connect with that person, it is ONLY three or four minutes out of your life spent and there is no bad blood.
And if you do connect with that person? You have only spent three or four minutes getting to know them and it leaves you wanting more and wanting to get that first proper date booked in and secured!
So why do people question if it works or not? Surely it must be a slam dunk success right?
Wrong.
The thing about speed dating is that as much as it is a great concept; it isn’t for everyone. To be able to put yourself out there and go to an event, then sit in front of between 8 -18 different people and have 8-18 mini first dates takes quite some courage. You have to be a person that is able to have those conversations and be happy bouncing from person to person throughout the evening. And that is where I think people fall short. They aren’t FULLY aware of how intense the evening can be and it can throw them off a little.
Hence, I send everyone in the direction of our Love at First Sign events. These singles events blend free mingling, with ice breaker activities thanks to the Cosmic Fusion App AND optional speed dating, should the daters feel they want to partake. The pressure of having to have those back to back mini dates is taken away and replaced with an opportunity to mingle and date how YOU feel comfortable. Dating bliss if you ask me…
Speed dating and singles mixers truly are great ways for singles to meet in a safe and fun environment where catfishing cannot happen! You get to have the chance to see what the person is actually like before you share too much information. In a world where people can truly be ANYBODY when they are behind a screen, it gives you back some control. In addition to this, any good event will always have a host/company representative there throughout the night to keep a watchful eye on things so you feel even MORE safe.
And if you get there, look around the room and maybe think that there is no one there you would normally ‘swipe for’, take this away. Every person in that room has at least ONE thing in common. You are all courageous and have put yourself out there to sit and talk to strangers all night. That is AMAZING.
Give it a try, you may surprise yourself!
