Just Became Single? Here Are Ideas to Help You Thrive, Not Just Survive
So you’ve just found yourself single. Whether it was your choice, your ex’s or an amicable split, being single is TOUGH. You suddenly have to adjust your life from what it was prior to the break up and this can look different for everyone.
Whether you were with that person for five weeks, months, years or decades, I’m here to tell you that there is life after a break up and singledom can look however you want it to. Think less survive-y and more thrive-y!
So here are my top tips for being newly single and rediscovering YOU.
- Sit with the emotions.
Give your break up and yourself the space and time required to sit with the emotions of what happened. Too often you are encouraged to pick yourself up and dust yourself down, however it’s really important to make sure you’ve given yourself a moment to digest and accept what has happened.
- Think about what YOU want.
Treat this time as an opportunity to really and truly think about what you want from life and from a future relationship. Becoming single again gives you the golden opportunity to hit the ‘reset’ button on the future and who you are.
Your ex didn’t like the colour pink but you’ve always wanted a pink bedroom? Paint that room PINK! You were nagged about trying to learn a new hobby in golf and it taking up your time? Use this new time to enjoy that hobby and improve it!
- Get back out there and have FUN!
Dating is so often given a bad rap for being terrifying and being a let down. To some extent this can be true - the single world can be terrifying from time to time, but there are so many different ways you can meet people now and IN PERSON (I of course, recommend our Love at First Sign events).
At the root of it all is to try and have some fun whilst you are out in the dating field. Enjoy going on dates and meeting different and new people! And if it all goes a bit wrong or is unsuccessful? Chalk it up to being a great dinner party story and try to remember that it’s a lesson or a reminder for what you DO want and DO deserve.
It can be super tough when you are single and all your friends are coupled up and seemingly happy, however I encourage you to try and find the good things in being single and having some time to truly just do what you want to do.
And hey, whilst you are in the process of rediscovering what makes your heart sing, you may just find the right person for you… stranger things have definitely happened!
